If you’re not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.
A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP
by Rev. Ronald McFadden
An African proverb states, “Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.” Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life”, you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can’t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don’t try to control one another. Learn each other’s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between ‘United’ and ‘Untied’ is where you put the ‘i’.
Happy Father’s Day Papa Romeo!!!
Thank you for everything that you’ve given us, Pa. All of us will always love you! Thank you for being the best dad in the whole world! Mwha!
Below are the sample bridal shower invitation that I’ve edited. Thanks to the original posters!
This is the fourth bridal shower that I hosted, the first one was for my college then colleague and a friend, Jean Bernales-Notario. The second bridal shower that I hosted was for an old colleague, Christine. The third one was last November (2010) for my friend and colleague, Clarinda Santiago-Ang. Now for the fourth (and hopefully not the last), we threw a bridal shower for the future Mrs. Wenning, Ms Marie Fe Domingo.
You could say that I’m no amateur when it comes to throwing bridal showers but I guess I should give a disclaimer that all the things that I know was from the books I’ve read or from internet. It took a lot of research and knowing your friends (attendee and the future-bride) to know what type of bridal shower will suit them. By the way, as of this writing, I have not yet had the chance to host a bridal shower where we rented any stripper, so I can say that it’s always safe fun! 🙂
Now, for the recent one that I hosted, I would consider Ms Ae (our supervisor) as a very conservative type of person. Instead of giving her a real stripper/dancer, we opted to simply set her up. She was thinking that we rented a male dancer for the night, but we really did not. It was really funny and I had stomach ache after that. All in all, I guess the guests and most specially the bride-to-be really did enjoy the shower party. Here’s the outline of the party, we can do this as well, if you want.
I. Scavenger Hunt
II. Dinner, while checking the pictures/videos for the Scavenger Hunt
III. Naughty Pictionary
IV. Blow-Blow the Condom Game
V. Announcement of the Orange-y Winner
VI. Toasts and messages for the bride-to-be
VII. “Stripper Time” hehehe
VIII. Winding down the night with sharing from more experienced girls (Carol, to be exact…LOL)
I will be posting soon the Official Rules of Scavenger Hunt that I edited from an online expert, www.bachelorette.com the tasks I’ve created for the team, and of course the pictures!!!
I can’t believe that I actually did not have to resort to blackmailing just to have Howe (my boyfriend) see a movie with me. I just told him that they’re showing the cartoon to movie about Thor, the God of Thunder. Based from the teaser of the movie, Iron Man 2, I’ve always known that they will create a movie based on the cartoon character, after founding a hammer in the middle of desert. I’m so glad that they did because he was Alex’s all-time favorite.
So for my movie reaction, the movie was so full pack action with great graphics and hot bodies! LOL. I like the performances of the actors, specially Anthony Hopkins and Natalie Portman. Even the weirdness of Loki, played by actor Tom Hiddleston’s above average. I think Tom could play several cartoon characters just like Loki. Sir Anthony Hopkins was very much engaging as a father who wanted everything for his son to be responsible and worthy of his throne. Natalie’s really a good actress and very believable. And Chris Hemsworth…he may not have the depth of acting of experienced actors but men! He have all the HOTS!!! LOL! It was funny when we saw this I was with Howe and I can’t help exclaiming with excitement!
I’m giving this movie 4 out of 5 stars for effects, action-packed and full of hotness movie!